In contrast, if men shun social pressures to be "nice" and follow what is biologically attractive, they have a higher likelihood of getting "sex partners". However, these men are often punished by being socially labeled as "jerks", "players", or even "creeps", unfit for socially-defined relationships. Furthermore, their tactics are often designated as "sexist" (Hall & Canterberry, 2011). Therefore, these men may get sex, but they often do not get love and respect.
Or...you can follow point 3 with a little effort. Learn to lead. Set high expectations. Become worth the effort for a woman to obtain, hold her to high behavioral standards to keep you, and reward her efforts with love and affection. Being a truly assertive leader as a man will still allow you to guide the right woman in love and prompt her to fulfill your needs. However, you must truly be worth while and valuable for her back, in order to promote such dedication in the long-run.
Dating a guy from Scandinavia is a little different to dating guys from Europe, but when you’re looking for that special partner, someone who will see you as being on the same level, you’ll quickly come to love and appreciate these men from the north. They like to talk plainly and explain the situation, especially if they feel that something’s not going too well. A typical Scandinavian, whether he comes from Stockholm or Gothenburg, likes to be dated in an open and polite way, and in return he’ll always do his best to understand you. If you’re unable to find the right guy in this country, then perhaps you might like to think about dating someone from Norway, Iceland or Denmark.
Although you may be ready to walk down the aisle, it can be hard to get a younger man to put a ring on it. “In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place,” says psychotherapist Robi Ludwig. “He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.
“The child in us believes that if the original perpetrators — or their current replacements — finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness. Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” – Psychology Today
1. European men aren’t just aiming to score. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play. American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation).