Another problem with consumer culture's impact on dating is the dehumanizing effect of people seeing themselves as the "product" instead of the consumer. In a market system, a product's value is determined by the demand for it. Therefore, men who don't perceive a high level of demand for themselves come to view themselves as having little or no personal value.
Men need to stop being so generous. As much as it goes against their grain, as much as it kills them. Our hearts ache when we read a woman's profile who seems sweet and just wanting to be given a chance. We feel so much empathy for her situation that we forget our own needs and vulnerability, and throw ourselves in front of the proverbial train for her. We send her a friendly hello. She doesn't look at your profile, she doesn't even read the message. She has just treated you like a toilet. And you will make that mistake again and again.
3. European men aren’t into labelling. Unlike American culture, where there’s almost a rite of passage which takes two people from “hooking up” to “seeing each other” to “dating” to “exclusive”, these labels just aren’t a focus or concern for European men. They don’t over analyze the situation. Rather, the mentality is, “I like you, I want to see you, and if it’s enjoyable, let’s keep seeing each other”. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process.
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