“I’ve had women I’m interested in express some interest in me, but after we learned more about each other, they explained why they didn’t think it was worth pursuing any further in a matter-of-fact, respectful way. To me, these are the most impressive, classy women that exist. Take the time to express that you’re not interested in a direct, compassionate way that provides closure to someone pursuing you, and don’t be mean if someone gets upset while you’re trying to do this. There’s nothing else a woman has ever done to me that’s as impressive as this, because they’re showing they believe that even someone they’re not interested in deserves to be treated in a way that preserves their dignity. When you’re not interested in someone and decide to communicate that indirectly via a cowardly retreat into slower responses and eventual silence, that’s very painful. What you’re doing is making it much more difficult for them than it needs to be, just to avoid a potentially uncomfortable interaction.”
Until recently, Indian marriages had all the trappings of a business transaction involving two deal-making families, a hardboiled matchmaker and a vocal board of shareholders – concerned uncles and aunts. The couple was almost incidental to the deal. They just dressed and showed up for the wedding ceremony. And after that the onus was on them to adjust to the 1,001 relatives, get to know each other and make the marriage work.
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“Try to keep your conversation light-hearted. On your first date, you don’t want to get into an in-depth conversation about why you don’t enjoy your job, or other issues. Avoid talking about religion, politics, or recent news that’s controversial. Women want a guy who can make them laugh. Yes you do have to be serious sometimes, but in the early stages of dating, have some fun.”– Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist
I’ve been reading quite a bit lately about the behaviors of baboons and chimpanzees, and how so much of human behavior mimicked those of our predecessors and that much of what we thought were aberrant human behaviors are actually genetically programmed , much as we took noticed of imprinting on young hatchlings. Unless, children are taught the art of social interactions, in much the same way as language skills and math; how can we honestly ecpect anyone to, ‘grow up’, without possibly costly consequences to either ourselves or our offspring?
“No one likes a neganator,” says single 40-something Ari (not his real name). This comes up a lot in online dating. “If your profile leads with the things you hate about men or what has frustrated you about online dating—before you even mentioned your positive qualities, you won’t make the cut even for a first date,” says dating coach Hoffman. Another way people express negativity is by speaking ill of others. “There’s no one less attractive in any given room than the person who feels the need to put others down,” Freeby says.

When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked. You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player. I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents. Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.
Jump up ^ Kate Stone Lombardi (April 18, 2004). "Next Generation; One Simple Rule for Dating: No Violence". The New York Times. Retrieved 2010-12-08. Ms. Lutz told the boys that among high school girls surveyed from the ages of 14 to 18, about 20 percent reported that they had been hit, slapped, shoved or forced into sexual activity by a dating partner. ...
Jump up ^ Kira Cochrane (24 January 2009). "Should I follow any rules?". The Guardian. Retrieved 2010-12-08. The Rules centres on the premise that "men are born to respond to challenge. Take away challenge and their interest wanes", and thus followers are instructed to suppress their natural instincts and continue as follows: ... never ask a man to dance, ... women should laugh at all their date's jokes...
Overall, men in either case report also having a difficult time finding what they label "attractive" women for longer-term relationships. Men often define these women along evolutionary psychology lines—women who are sexually-selective, faithful, physically attractive, and have a pleasant, respectful disposition (for more on these qualities, see Buss, 2003 and my own articles here and here). Unfortunately, these qualities are again part of women's double bind, with social norms sometimes guiding them away from these biologically feminine characteristics.
“No one likes to be talked down to or belittled,” Rami says. “If you’re into that, don’t expect him to stick around for long.” If the purpose of constructive criticism is to get a man to change something about himself, it’s wasted breath. “If you badger him about changing something, the one thing he’ll probably change is you.” It would be great if women could stop believing they can change men, observes psychotherapist Delboy. “Men can change and many of them may want to, but it’s a turn-off when someone is actively trying to turn them into someone they’re not.”
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If you are used to super-fast dating, you’ll find things are quite a lot slower when you decide to date a guy from Sweden. Here, when a single guy wants to meet a nice lady, he’ll probably trawl through an internet dating site or go to a bar with friends. And because most will be hoping to find a reliable, strong relationship, they take their time, knowing there’s no point in rushing into things. Swedish girls know this and accept it, as they feel the same way. Even though Sweden can almost be considered to be a part of Europe, the guys, because of their rather laid-back attitudes, are pretty different when compared with their counterparts in France, Germany or Italy. The Swedish social system is one of the world’s most efficient, health care and education being at the top of the agenda, so your lover from this amazing country will be well-educated and have great prospects.
Although you may be ready to walk down the aisle, it can be hard to get a younger man to put a ring on it. “In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place,” says psychotherapist Robi Ludwig. “He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.
^ Jump up to: a b "QQ chat rooms gain on dating agencies". China Daily. 2007-08-15. Retrieved 2010-12-09. The Internet QQ chat room is challenging traditional dating agencies ... more than 20,000 members. ... The QQ user groups charge little for service in comparison with traditional dating agencies, that usually collect 100 (US$13) to 200 yuan (US$26) per introduction.

Your biological clock is ticking away,  meanwhile  his might not even be turned on. Women in their mid-20s to early 30s are prime for baby-making, but “younger men don’t have the ‘dad” gene in them until they get to be more established and mature,” says New York City-based matchmaker Janis Spindel. So if you want kids, it could be several years until your youthful partner is ready to face the reality of raising one.
In contrast, if men shun social pressures to be "nice" and follow what is biologically attractive, they have a higher likelihood of getting "sex partners". However, these men are often punished by being socially labeled as "jerks", "players", or even "creeps", unfit for socially-defined relationships. Furthermore, their tactics are often designated as "sexist" (Hall & Canterberry, 2011). Therefore, these men may get sex, but they often do not get love and respect.
Problem is, when guys have too many losses where every game is "on the road" where the refs aren't so great either -- he is apt to become MGTOW. And he can be happy -- especially if he fool around with an okay-looking gal from time to time and leaves it at that (unless/until he stumbles upon a great match who's into him off the bat without him trying).
Bumble also checks off the boxes for usability, a slick user interface, and easy setup. In addition, the relatively ballsy move of designing a dating app specifically with women in mind — but that is definitely also meant to be used by men — pays off. It’s also the only app that clearly states plainly and prominently that it prohibits pornographic material, requires its users to respect one another, and has a code of conduct in place specifically to make it a safe and friendly place. We only found one other dating app that had a code of conduct — and it was hidden within the Terms of Use, which no one reads. The 24-hour time limit to connect with someone adds just enough pressure to say “hello,” so that matches don’t languish and get reshuffled into the deck. And if you accidentally nixed someone? Just shake your phone to undo your rogue swipe.

Beau: Well, it depends on what the date involves. Usually, a first date will be a drink after work so I’ll just freshen up before I leave the office. If it’s a weekend date, I’ll make sure my outfit is clean, ironed and appropriate for the location and make sure the hair is wrestled into place. So really, as long as it takes to make sure the clothes are looking good and the grooming ritual is complete!


Until recently, Indian marriages had all the trappings of a business transaction involving two deal-making families, a hardboiled matchmaker and a vocal board of shareholders – concerned uncles and aunts. The couple was almost incidental to the deal. They just dressed and showed up for the wedding ceremony. And after that the onus was on them to adjust to the 1,001 relatives, get to know each other and make the marriage work.
Mr. All That But the Bag of Chips is another guy you can easily see a future with. He's your best friend, lover and confidant, and the connection with him is so rare and different that you know: This is it. The crazy thing is that whether he says it or not, you can usually tell he senses it too. He is looking for a partnership, a merging of minds. He's reasonably confident in where he's headed in life. But...
*BUT* if you want to have a real long term relationship, you have to have substance. Interests. Goals. A social circle. You need to put effort INTO your life. Players fiend the confidence that comes with real accomplishment. They don't worry about being exposed because they only need to keep up the charade long enough to get the girl into bed. Even if this takes a few weeks, by the time she figures out this cocky confidence is just a front he has already gotten all that he wants out of the exchange. Some idolize the player, while some deplore such behavior - and others, still, feel sorry for him - that he feels he's "cheated the system" when really he's cheating himself out of the benefits of more emotionally involved connections.
From my expert opinion greed, "affluenza" and female selfish attitude and stupidity are to blame and in the end all us honest good prospects become the dinosaurs of time ZZZZzzZZZyawn wheres my dog now that's a real relationship bitch! we off surfing and this afternoon biking man life good and the only sad part is jerking off and dreaming of the first love I lost at 19 who ended up marrying a yuppy ZZZzzZ
3) Holding High Standards - yet other men continue to hold high standards for both themselves and their partners. They invest in their own attractiveness, value, and success. They also treat partners equitably according to their behavior, worth, and contributions to the relationship. These men further qualify and screen partners well, not selling themselves short for less than they deserve. This approach takes constant effort though—both in the man maintaining his own standards, and in his motivating and inspiring others to do so too. It also requires patience in searching for someone who can live up to those desired standards. However, these efforts are often met with a partner who is attracted to them, respectful, and attractive for them too. For more on that approach see here, here, here, and here.

Another problem with consumer culture's impact on dating is the dehumanizing effect of people seeing themselves as the "product" instead of the consumer. In a market system, a product's value is determined by the demand for it. Therefore, men who don't perceive a high level of demand for themselves come to view themselves as having little or no personal value.

Single New Yorker William (not his real name) has no tolerance for intolerant women. Since William is a black man, one might assume that any woman he’s dating is not a racist. Not true. “I’ve dated women who are fine with black guys, but dislike Hispanic or Jewish people.” And for William, any intolerance, whether racial, religious, or otherwise, is a deal breaker.
5. European men are raised to have great manners. This is definitely seen in how they treat not only women, but everyone around them. There is a courtesy, consideration, chivalry and thoughtfulness in how they act, behave and engage with others. They are also raised with strong family and community values, so there is a sense of responsibility and accountability for others, not just for the self. American culture raises children to be fiercely independent and to look out for ‘number one’. This breeds a generation of men who have habits of looking after their own needs versus the needs of the collective.
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