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“I’ve had women I’m interested in express some interest in me, but after we learned more about each other, they explained why they didn’t think it was worth pursuing any further in a matter-of-fact, respectful way. To me, these are the most impressive, classy women that exist. Take the time to express that you’re not interested in a direct, compassionate way that provides closure to someone pursuing you, and don’t be mean if someone gets upset while you’re trying to do this. There’s nothing else a woman has ever done to me that’s as impressive as this, because they’re showing they believe that even someone they’re not interested in deserves to be treated in a way that preserves their dignity. When you’re not interested in someone and decide to communicate that indirectly via a cowardly retreat into slower responses and eventual silence, that’s very painful. What you’re doing is making it much more difficult for them than it needs to be, just to avoid a potentially uncomfortable interaction.”
The prospect of love often entails anxiety, sometimes with a fear of commitment [51] and a fear of intimacy for persons of both sexes.[52] One woman said "being really intimate with someone in a committed sense is kind of threatening" and described love as "the most terrifying thing."[53] In her Psychology Today column, research scientist, columnist, and author Debby Herbenick compared it to a roller coaster:
Jump up ^ Maureen Dowd quoting poet Dorothy Parker (2005). "What's a Modern Girl to Do?". The New York Times. Retrieved 2010-12-08. Sylvia Ann Hewlett, ... in 2002, conducted a survey and found that 55 percent of 35-year-old career women were childless. ... compared with only 19 percent of the men. ... "the rule of thumb seems to be that the more successful the woman, the less likely it is she will find a husband or bear a child. ...

I see, reading my comment again (ironically, not even noticing that it was my comment at first...) how you could get the impression that this "image" a man portrays is just that: attitudinal, and based on charisma, or charm or the ability to speak with people easily. However, this was not my point. The crux of my post was to define success and define one's self through pursuit of the things that lead to that definition of success. There is far more to that than just having charisma. Sure, there are guys out there who can buy a coffee and read a newspaper and make themselves sound worldly and accomplished - as there are people with multiple degrees working on cutting edge technology who fear their work is boring, and choose to be more introverted and humble.


I know someone who not just opted out, but switched sexualities due to this. They got with a very feminine gay guy, who was suffering due to the gay scene being so small and not giving. They ended up very happy together, sexually satisfied, romance, little-to no fighting, and so on. This leads me to think it's a culture problem, with the West. Mainly US women and Canada.


In a previous article, I put forward the notion that individuals were not "afraid" to date—rather they simply did not have sufficient incentive to do so (see here). We are all motivated to seek out rewards and avoid punishments (Skinner, 1974). When rewards outweigh punishment, people perform behaviors. When punishments weight more heavily, people avoid those same behaviors.
Marriages and courtship in Pakistan are influenced by traditional cultural practices similar to those elsewhere in the Indian subcontinent as well as Muslim norms and manners. Illegitimate relationships before marriage are considered a social taboo and social interaction between unmarried men and women is encouraged at a modest and healthy level. Couples are usually wedded through either an arranged marriage or love marriage. Love marriages are those in which the individuals have chosen a partner whom they like by their own choice prior to marriage, and usually occur with the consent of parents and family. Arranged marriages on the other hand are marriages which are set and agreed by the families or guardians of the two individuals where the couple may not have met before. In either cases and in consistency with traditional marital practices, individuals who marry are persuaded to meet and talk to each other for some time before considering marrying so that they can check their compatibility.
College students in their sophomore to junior year who have not been in a relationship feel anxious that they are falling behind amongst their peers. Most of them try "sogaeting", going out on a blind date, for the first time to get into a relationship. Dating is a duty that most people feel they must take on to not seem incompetent.[122] In recent trends, even dramas such as “”Shining Romance” (“빛나는 로맨스”), and “Jang Bo-ri is Here!” (“왔다 장보리”), and in a variety show called, “Dad! Where Are We Going?” (“아빠 어디가?”) there are elementary children confessing their love.

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Checking out your daily horoscope can be a fun way to break up the day, but using it as a dating tool can seriously limit your options. "I had a girl say she didn't date Scorpios, yet we got along great. She just couldn't stop saying, Scorpios are this, Scorpios are that,'" says 34-year-old Marc, "until one day…it caused a fight, which all folks have—even Scorpios. When I got upset, she said, See, I told you, typical Scorpio.'"

Harriet: I always think a man can look like George Clooney, have more power than a Fortune 500 CEO and get about in a private jet, but all of that means nothing without two basic things: kindness and self confidence. The first because I think any long term relationship needs kindness from both parties to last. And the second because I think someone who is truly happy in their skin will treat you well and allow you to be your best self.

So does this mean the only hope for a happy, committed relationship is to move to another country? Not at all. As mentioned above, the observations summarized above are not really about where one is born, but rather a mentality that is influenced by societal and cultural values. We must be aware of our own behavior in the dating game, because we are active participants in how we are treated.  We must take a look at who we are drawn to in the first place, and why. If you keep attracting (and are attracted to) men who are emotionally unavailable and who treat you poorly, then it really doesn’t matter if your dating prospects are from France, New York, Vancouver or Mars – the shift needs to occur within you first and foremost. In fact, you may be experiencing attractions of deprivation, where you try to recreate the issues from childhood in your romantic partners. To find out more, read this article on “Why Do Good Women Pick the Wrong Men.”
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