I have to say to this group of commenters in general, it's so not true that women don't work on themselves. First off, women are held to such a damagingly high standard of appearance--a level men would never bother to ascribe to themselves. The average guy has no idea how much work it takes women to look "presentable" by society's standards, let alone to be considered a prime choice in attraction from this "evolutionary" standpoint we're hearing so much about these days. Men really seem to want women to all look like 20 year old supermodels or strippers. Not only that, they seem to want women to look that way without *any* effort at all. The average woman next door seems to not be good enough for many men to actually have a relationship with, even if the guy is well past his forties. Read the article "Why I hate beauty", written by a man on this very site, it examines this phenomenon somewhat. So not only are average women not good enough, the desirable supermodel (or stripper) woman also has to be "submissive" enough to the man (really, no adult should be expected to submit as a way of life, just to make someone else feel good), be bubbly all the time, be servile, nonthreatening, not too smart, and do most (if not all) the housework, even if she also works. Ironically, though, if a woman has supported herself and saved up a good net worth, and suggests going dutch on dates because she doesn't believe in using men as cash machines--is she valued by men for that? Heck no. She's seen as threatening, and probably labeled a man-hating "feminazi", which is wrong for so many reasons. If you men want to avoid getting screwed in divorce, take responsibility for your life and draw up a strong pre-nup before you bind yourself legally to another person. If you're planning to marry a woman who's a user and expects men to pay her way through life, first ask yourself whether she's really the person you want to marry. And consider you may have to move away from the fantasy of landing a woman who looks like a 20 year old supermodel or stripper; women are about so much more than that. They're people. And no, I'm not a bitter, lonely feminazi, either. I'm a very attractive, *feminist* woman with lots of money I earned and saved entirely on my own with no help from anyone, who's also in a happy domestic partnership. When we marry, there'll be a prenup first, so if things don't happen to work out, we each can leave with what we came with and split the mutual stuff. Speak up for yourselves; don't expect women to look like supermodels and to simply turn their autonomy over to you; don't support a romantic partner financially; and get over seeing women who try to treat men like human beings as threatening (if you do).
Jump up ^ Elizabeth A. Armstrong; Laura Hamilton; Paula England (Summer 2010). "Is Hooking Up Bad For Young Women?". American Sociological Association. Retrieved 2010-12-13. Relationships are “greedy,” getting in the way of other things that young women want to be doing as adolescents and young adults, and they are often characterized by gender inequality—sometimes even violence.
Indeed, for those who’ve tried and failed to find the right man offline, internet dating can provide a great alternative. Not only does it let you be really upfront about what is you want from a relationship, a reputable dating site can connect you with single men seeking women who want similar things. This makes online dating ideal for those who desire true compatibility, right from the start.
Think carefully about inviting us back after a first date – Yes, we might well ask you but that doesn’t necessarily mean we want you to say yes. A kiss on your doorstep is enough to reassure us that you are interested but if you invite us in for the night we will start to wonder if this happens to every guy you date. This is a bit of a subconscious thing with men, and although we think we want to spend the night at your place after a first date, in the cold light of the morning after we will be relieved that it didn’t happen.
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An earlier report suggested that online dating businesses were thriving financially, with growth in members, service offerings, membership fees and with many users renewing their accounts, although the overall share of Internet traffic using online dating services in the U.S. has declined somewhat, from 2003 (21% of all Internet users) to 2006 (10%), and that dating sites must work to convince users that they're safe places having quality members. While online dating has become more accepted, it retains a slight negative stigma. There is widespread evidence that online dating has increased rapidly and is becoming "mainstream" with new websites appearing regularly. One study suggested that 18% of single persons had used the Internet for dating purposes. Reports vary about the effectiveness of dating web sites to result in marriages or long–term relationships. Pew Research, based on a 2005 survey of 3,215 adults, estimated that three million Americans had entered into long-term relationships or marriage as a result of meeting on a dating web site. While sites have touted marriage rates from 10% to 25%, sociologists and marriage researchers are highly skeptical that valid statistics underlie any such claims. The Pew study (see table) suggested the Internet was becoming increasingly prominent and accepted as a way to meet people for dates, although there were cautions about deception, the risk of violence, and some concerns about stigmas. The report suggested most people had positive experiences with online dating websites and felt they were excellent ways to meet more people. The report also said that online daters tend to have more liberal social attitudes compared to the general population. In India, parents sometimes participate in websites designed to match couples. Some online dating sites can organize double dates or group dates. Research from Berkeley suggests there's a dropoff in interest after online daters meet face–to–face. It's a lean medium not offering standard cues such as tone of voice, gestures, and facial expressions. There is substantial data about online dating habits; for example, researchers believe that "the likelihood of a reply to a message sent by one online dater to another drops roughly 0.7 percent with every day that goes by". Psychologist Lindsay Shaw Taylor found that even though people said they'd be willing to date someone of a different race, that people tend to choose dates similar to themselves.
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You be cool, confident, and cordial -- but not giving the IMPRESSION that you're trying to Win her over. At all. She can't get whatever she wants when she wants it from you. Your IMPRESSION is that you're not going to be an easy rollover... it'd be a negative situation for her (or any guy) if they tried to push you back and always work to "get their way".
Another problem with consumer culture's impact on dating is the dehumanizing effect of people seeing themselves as the "product" instead of the consumer. In a market system, a product's value is determined by the demand for it. Therefore, men who don't perceive a high level of demand for themselves come to view themselves as having little or no personal value.
Singles event: Where a group of singles are brought together to take part in various events for the purposes of meeting new people. Events can include such things as parties, workshops, and games. Many events are aimed at singles of particular affiliations, interest, or religions. A weekend flirting course in Britain advised daters to "love the inner you" and understand the difference between arrogance from insecurity and "true self-confidence"; it featured exercises in which students were told to imagine that they were "great big beautiful gods and goddesses" and treat others similarly.
“I’m trying to go to lunch, not on an Indiana Jones adventure to unlock the secrets of some tombstone,” Freeby jokes. But he strikes a chord for a lot of men: “We like a challenge, but if a woman plays hard to get, it’s a deal breaker.” The availability of other women via online dating websites and apps makes it even more crucial that a woman not appear to be closed off, points out dating coach Bennett. Here’s the dumbest dating advice we’ve ever heard.
Harriet: This is such a tough question because women don’t always get to call the shots on this – it tends to be the man who asks us if we would like to be his girlfriend… not that there’s anything wrong with a girl doing the asking! In fact, I encourage it. I would say though if things have gotten to a stage where you feel things should be official and he is refusing to commit, you should ask yourself whether this is the right relationship for you. You want someone who is excited to call you their girlfriend!
The prospect of love often entails anxiety, sometimes with a fear of commitment  and a fear of intimacy for persons of both sexes. One woman said "being really intimate with someone in a committed sense is kind of threatening" and described love as "the most terrifying thing." In her Psychology Today column, research scientist, columnist, and author Debby Herbenick compared it to a roller coaster:
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“Try to keep your conversation light-hearted. On your first date, you don’t want to get into an in-depth conversation about why you don’t enjoy your job, or other issues. Avoid talking about religion, politics, or recent news that’s controversial. Women want a guy who can make them laugh. Yes you do have to be serious sometimes, but in the early stages of dating, have some fun.”– Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist
According to one source, there are four ways that marriage can happen among the Nyangatom people: (1) arranged marriage, when well-respected elders are sent to the girl's family on behalf of the boy's family; (2) courtship or dating after a friendly meeting between boy and girl such as at a market place or holiday where there's dancing; (3) abduction, such as during a blood feud between families; (4) inheritance.
Teenagers and college-aged students tend to avoid the more formal activity of dating, and prefer casual no-strings-attached experiments sometimes described as hookups. It permits young women to "go out and fit into the social scene, get attention from young men, and learn about sexuality", according to one report by sociologists. The term hookup can describe a wide variety of behavior ranging from kissing to non-genital touching to make-out sessions; according to one report, only about one third of people had sexual intercourse. A contrary report, however, suggested there has been no "sea change" in sexual behavior regarding college students from 1988 onwards, and that the term hookup itself continued to be used to describe a variety of relationships, including merely socializing or passionate kissing as well as sexual intercourse.
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Models is the first book ever written on seduction as an emotional process rather than a logical one (like The Game). Through honesty and being an all round genuine and awesome bloke, Mark Mason teaches men to approach. According to him the key is to be honest and direct, which shows her that you find her attractive and sexy; but not hung up on her response. He also teaches men how to deal with rejection and use it to their advantage. A great read.
While I agree with you in sentiment, I don't agree with you in practice. That WAS me. Making myself a better person, a better lover, a better man. Up until the point that I found this effort to be completely and utterly 1 sided. There are NO women who are putting in this kind of effort, making themselves better women, better people, better lovers. And before you use some ridiculous statement like "not all women are like that", PROVE IT! Show me these mythical unicorns of which you speak. Otherwise my personal experience has shown me time and time again that women are completely selfish and self absorbed and couldn't be bothered with real self improvement unless it comes from Oprah and involves nothing more than wishing for what you want.
There's something fundamentally wrong with this state of affairs, because nobody wins. You have unattractive young women who are either treated as subhuman (i.e. no one gives a shit about the fat chick), or they live in a town where the guys outnumber the girls, and so they get an over-inflated ego. You have the young guys who genuinely want to do the right thing by women, but have been robbed of their masculinity by everyone around them (I was that guy). You have sociopaths being rewarded for sociopathic behaviour, and attractive women living a life of unchallenged dominance, within which they somehow still manage to find time to bitch about so-called feminist "issues". Then, at the end of all of this, women as a group are punished for ageing, as they lose value compared to their younger peers. When it's time to settle down, they discover that their own sexual value has fallen off a cliff, while that of the men around them continues to climb proportionate to their success. At this stage, there is outrage that all of the good men have disappeared; of course, the men are still there, but they're no longer interested.
If you don’t want a second date, don’t say you’ll call her. You’ll end up feeling bad and she might feel hurt. Just say, “I had a great time tonight”. If you do want to see her again, don’t play games. Yes, in films they always leave it a couple of days to contact each other, but this is 2016. If you don’t contact her within a couple of days, you’ll seem like you couldn’t be bothered, or didn’t enjoy the date. The sooner you tell her what a great time you had, the better.
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Amy is a relationship columnist for the 24 Hours Newspaper and a blogger for The Huffington Post and The Vancouver Sun. She has been featured in FASHION Magazine, The Georgia Straight, Ming Pao Magazine and her essay “The Infinite Chase” was published in a book to support ‘End Sex Trafficking Day’ along with notable authors such as Seth Godin and Danielle LaPorte. Most recently was shortlisted as a nominee for the YWCA Women of Distinction Awards.