This is a big rant, I don't know what else to say. I have done #1 on a personal level. I really can't get into the whole PUA thing; I'm too real to bullshit people. I am #2 at heart; while I will bend over for certain things I will not be a pushover and always state how I feel about something. I am now and have always been at #3. This is further reinforced after my breakup with the ex. Now I am at the stage where I am moving into the #4 category. I do not want to go here. I want to stay at #3 but honestly it looks hopeless. The future looks incredibly bleak. People say: "What's meant to be will be", "Things happen for a reason", "This happened so you can become the person you will be". Who really knows if any of this stuff is true.
The Match.com interface is also pretty sleek and minimalist, but it’s not as easy to use as, say, Tinder. It utilizes a set of tabs that run along the top of the display — i.e. “matches,” “search,” “viewed me,” and “mixer” — which break up the service’s various functions. It’s not an overly complicated app, but it does take a few minutes to get used to.
Harriet: I always think a man can look like George Clooney, have more power than a Fortune 500 CEO and get about in a private jet, but all of that means nothing without two basic things: kindness and self confidence. The first because I think any long term relationship needs kindness from both parties to last. And the second because I think someone who is truly happy in their skin will treat you well and allow you to be your best self.
Appearances can be deceiving, though. Although Coffee Meets Bagel allows for a range of super-specific preferences, the bagel it sends you may or may not match your specified preferences and, more often than not, if they do, they will be a significant distance away. The app can also be glitchy, often resulting in slow update and load times, and sometimes it’s frustrating that it sends you only a single bagel a day. You can speed things up a bit by using the “give & take” option, but it’ll cost you 385 beans to like someone who catches your eye.
8. European men have a different perception of beauty. As the media in Europe is a lot more heavily monitored, Europeans grow up surrounded by media and images of women who are curvy, comfortable in their own skin, and sensual (versus overly sexualized). The latest law passed in France where excessively skinny models need to prove their health is a testament to that. But when you’re surrounded by American media, filled with Barbie dolls, waif skinny models and Baywatch breasts, the idea of what ‘beauty’ is becomes skewed.
If you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls. However, if you are a man (independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.
I never thought that the cultural background of a dating prospect would make much of a difference when it came to relationships. However, since living in New York, I’ve had the opportunity to meet many different people from various backgrounds and it’s become clear that there are definite cultural norms specific to European men versus American men (especially New Yorkers). I’m not to judge that one is better than the other, and mind you, my observations are based on my own experiences as well as a group of women I’ve interviewed in the last two years. The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed. Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa.