I have to say to this group of commenters in general, it's so not true that women don't work on themselves. First off, women are held to such a damagingly high standard of appearance--a level men would never bother to ascribe to themselves. The average guy has no idea how much work it takes women to look "presentable" by society's standards, let alone to be considered a prime choice in attraction from this "evolutionary" standpoint we're hearing so much about these days. Men really seem to want women to all look like 20 year old supermodels or strippers. Not only that, they seem to want women to look that way without *any* effort at all. The average woman next door seems to not be good enough for many men to actually have a relationship with, even if the guy is well past his forties. Read the article "Why I hate beauty", written by a man on this very site, it examines this phenomenon somewhat. So not only are average women not good enough, the desirable supermodel (or stripper) woman also has to be "submissive" enough to the man (really, no adult should be expected to submit as a way of life, just to make someone else feel good), be bubbly all the time, be servile, nonthreatening, not too smart, and do most (if not all) the housework, even if she also works. Ironically, though, if a woman has supported herself and saved up a good net worth, and suggests going dutch on dates because she doesn't believe in using men as cash machines--is she valued by men for that? Heck no. She's seen as threatening, and probably labeled a man-hating "feminazi", which is wrong for so many reasons. If you men want to avoid getting screwed in divorce, take responsibility for your life and draw up a strong pre-nup before you bind yourself legally to another person. If you're planning to marry a woman who's a user and expects men to pay her way through life, first ask yourself whether she's really the person you want to marry. And consider you may have to move away from the fantasy of landing a woman who looks like a 20 year old supermodel or stripper; women are about so much more than that. They're people. And no, I'm not a bitter, lonely feminazi, either. I'm a very attractive, *feminist* woman with lots of money I earned and saved entirely on my own with no help from anyone, who's also in a happy domestic partnership. When we marry, there'll be a prenup first, so if things don't happen to work out, we each can leave with what we came with and split the mutual stuff. Speak up for yourselves; don't expect women to look like supermodels and to simply turn their autonomy over to you; don't support a romantic partner financially; and get over seeing women who try to treat men like human beings as threatening (if you do).
This is a big rant, I don't know what else to say. I have done #1 on a personal level. I really can't get into the whole PUA thing; I'm too real to bullshit people. I am #2 at heart; while I will bend over for certain things I will not be a pushover and always state how I feel about something. I am now and have always been at #3. This is further reinforced after my breakup with the ex. Now I am at the stage where I am moving into the #4 category. I do not want to go here. I want to stay at #3 but honestly it looks hopeless. The future looks incredibly bleak. People say: "What's meant to be will be", "Things happen for a reason", "This happened so you can become the person you will be". Who really knows if any of this stuff is true.

As for me, I think feminism, individualism, materialism and women always shopping for a more "lucrative deal" relationship wise has made most women in the first world way more difficult than they need to be. They say most couples fight about money - I would offer that in most cases it's the female who has constantly higher expectations of what "being in a couple" should provide her. There is too much emphasis on getting into a relationship as a means of simply accessing more financial resources. I really think a woman making $50K and getting with a man who makes $100K really thinks of this as her having a new "family" or "couple" income of $150K, of which she will spend the lion's share.

You know the missed connections section on Craigslist? Say you had a shared moment sitting next to a woman at a movie theater. She asks you about the film's ending on the way out, but you were too shy to ask her name or her number. You just went on and on about film theory instead of asking her out. You're now spending the day wishing you would've been more confident when talking with her. 
An earlier report suggested that online dating businesses were thriving financially, with growth in members, service offerings, membership fees and with many users renewing their accounts, although the overall share of Internet traffic using online dating services in the U.S. has declined somewhat, from 2003 (21% of all Internet users) to 2006 (10%), and that dating sites must work to convince users that they're safe places having quality members.[167] While online dating has become more accepted, it retains a slight negative stigma.[168] There is widespread evidence that online dating has increased rapidly and is becoming "mainstream" with new websites appearing regularly.[169] One study suggested that 18% of single persons had used the Internet for dating purposes.[170] Reports vary about the effectiveness of dating web sites to result in marriages or long–term relationships. Pew Research, based on a 2005 survey of 3,215 adults, estimated that three million Americans had entered into long-term relationships or marriage as a result of meeting on a dating web site.[171] While sites have touted marriage rates from 10% to 25%, sociologists and marriage researchers are highly skeptical that valid statistics underlie any such claims.[171] The Pew study (see table) suggested the Internet was becoming increasingly prominent and accepted as a way to meet people for dates, although there were cautions about deception, the risk of violence,[38] and some concerns about stigmas.[38] The report suggested most people had positive experiences with online dating websites and felt they were excellent ways to meet more people.[38] The report also said that online daters tend to have more liberal social attitudes compared to the general population.[38] In India, parents sometimes participate in websites designed to match couples.[157] Some online dating sites can organize double dates or group dates.[172] Research from Berkeley suggests there's a dropoff in interest after online daters meet face–to–face.[22] It's a lean medium not offering standard cues such as tone of voice, gestures, and facial expressions.[22] There is substantial data about online dating habits; for example, researchers believe that "the likelihood of a reply to a message sent by one online dater to another drops roughly 0.7 percent with every day that goes by".[22] Psychologist Lindsay Shaw Taylor found that even though people said they'd be willing to date someone of a different race, that people tend to choose dates similar to themselves.[22]
Russian dating sites put your dating experience in your hands without any interference from any third party. Agencies often over-promise and don’t deliver compatible matches - which is a waste of your time. A dating site on the other hand not only provides you access to thousands of Russian personals but based on the information you provide, also recommends compatible matches to you. You then have the opportunity to connect with compatible women on your own terms.
Plenty of highly motivated men end up losing it all to vindictive greedy women who only a few years before treated him generously. And if the world didn't give a flip about how Paul McCartney (a virtual saint) got raped by his gold digging wife of five years who tried to take him for half a billion dollars in Beatles money then you can guarantee they aren't going to care about some upper middle class schlub who's getting the heave ho by his old lady.

The men that I speak with (and who commented on my last post) lament about being in a "no win situation" in modern dating. If they follow what society tells them to do, they often end up "good guys" who are taken advantage of, mistreated, and disrespected. In contrast, if they follow more "assertive" biological imperatives, they are labeled "jerks" and "players"—who may get sexual gratification, but not love or respect from what they would consider a "good woman". Overall, they report that there is often little incentive for men to date and even less for them to consider long-term commitments.
The Match.com iteration of flirting is sending someone a “wink,” and you can search through the Match.com database to find people to wink at. The service will also provide you with personalized matches on a daily basis, which take your interests into consideration. To really make the most of Match.com, however, you’re going to need a subscription, which can get a little pricey — the cheapest option currently available will run you $21 a month for six months. A premium subscription does allow you to see who’s recently looked at your profile and who has liked your pictures, though, and includes a host of other features.
^ Jump up to: a b c d e f g Abigail Goldman (Winter 2010). "The Heart of the Matter: Online or off, couples still have to click". California Magazine. Retrieved 2010-12-28. New Berkeley research shows that online daters like each other more before they actually meet in person—it's that first face-to-face where things slide downhill, and average daters report disappointment across the board, let down on everything from looks to personality.

He'll also do "couples things" with you, like going to Whole Foods or putting Ikea furniture together—or even, dare I say, cuddling. And sometimes he'll drop everything to spend time with you. But whenever he feels too close to the cusp of a real relationship, he'll ignore texts and phone calls, or blow off get-togethers, hinting about how busy he is at work.

There’s nothing more annoying than phones ringing whilst trying to spend quality time out with friends, and it’s just as irritating on a date. Don’t just put it on silent or vibrate, as you can still become distracted. Turn your phone off completely. If she knows that you’ve turned your phone off to focus entirely on the date, she’ll appreciate you’re taking the time to engage with her fully.


I’ve been reading quite a bit lately about the behaviors of baboons and chimpanzees, and how so much of human behavior mimicked those of our predecessors and that much of what we thought were aberrant human behaviors are actually genetically programmed , much as we took noticed of imprinting on young hatchlings. Unless, children are taught the art of social interactions, in much the same way as language skills and math; how can we honestly ecpect anyone to, ‘grow up’, without possibly costly consequences to either ourselves or our offspring?

One of the top traits men (and women) are looking for when they’re dating is kindness. And the number one they avoid like the plague? Dishonesty. It’s a broad term, but any kind of dishonesty should be an immediate deal breaker, according to New York psychotherapist, Melissa Divaris Thompson. That includes lying, failing to disclose, or concealing anything else on this list of deal breakers. Both men and women seem particularly sensitive to lies about age and marital status. Single model, actor, and entrepreneur Devon Ryan says that he’s speaking on behalf of himself and all his single friends when he says that “men seek a woman they can trust since they will be investing their time, energy, and money into them. If a woman tells even a small lie it signals to a man that they are capable of lying to them which increases the woman’s risk profile.” Here are the worst possible relationship lies you can tell.
“I’ve had women I’m interested in express some interest in me, but after we learned more about each other, they explained why they didn’t think it was worth pursuing any further in a matter-of-fact, respectful way. To me, these are the most impressive, classy women that exist. Take the time to express that you’re not interested in a direct, compassionate way that provides closure to someone pursuing you, and don’t be mean if someone gets upset while you’re trying to do this. There’s nothing else a woman has ever done to me that’s as impressive as this, because they’re showing they believe that even someone they’re not interested in deserves to be treated in a way that preserves their dignity. When you’re not interested in someone and decide to communicate that indirectly via a cowardly retreat into slower responses and eventual silence, that’s very painful. What you’re doing is making it much more difficult for them than it needs to be, just to avoid a potentially uncomfortable interaction.”

Single New Yorker William (not his real name) has no tolerance for intolerant women. Since William is a black man, one might assume that any woman he’s dating is not a racist. Not true. “I’ve dated women who are fine with black guys, but dislike Hispanic or Jewish people.” And for William, any intolerance, whether racial, religious, or otherwise, is a deal breaker.


Each year, November 11 has become an unofficial holiday[88] known as China's Singles' Day when singles are encouraged to make an extra effort to find a partner.[89] Worried parents of unmarried children often arrange dates for their offspring on this day as well as others.[89] Before the day approaches, thousands of college students and young workers post messages describing their plans for this day. In Arabic numerals, the day looks like "1111", that is, "like four single people standing together", and there was speculation that it originated in the late 1990s when college students celebrated being single with "a little self-mockery"[88] but a differing explanation dates it back to events in the Roman Empire.[88] For many, Singles' Day offers people a way to "demonstrate their stance on love and marriage.[88]
“Most women aren’t dying to sit down for two hours to share a boring meal with a stranger, playing an awkward game of 20 questions. Instead, plan something more fun and adventurous. (Like bowling, hiking, kayaking.) Especially on the first few dates when impressions matter the most. Give them a date they’ll remember.”-David Bennett, Dating Coach at The Popular Man

^ Jump up to: a b Casey Schwartz (August 26, 2016). "Sex and Dating: Now the Thinking Gal's Subject: The writer Emily Witt in the woods near her family's home in rural New Hampshire, where she often retreats to write". The New York Times. Retrieved August 29, 2016. ...At 30, the writer Emily Witt found herself single and heartbroken ... intent on examining the mythology around how life for women ... Ms. Witt, now 35. ... nonfiction seeks to blend personal writing with social analysis...


“Most women aren’t dying to sit down for two hours to share a boring meal with a stranger, playing an awkward game of 20 questions. Instead, plan something more fun and adventurous. (Like bowling, hiking, kayaking.) Especially on the first few dates when impressions matter the most. Give them a date they’ll remember.”-David Bennett, Dating Coach at The Popular Man
The Tinder app no longer requires you to have a Facebook account in order to enable it, but you do have to be older than 18. Once enabled, you can set up a concise profile that consists of a 500-character bio and up to six images (we suggest always including a photo). You can still choose to create a profile using your Facebook profile if you want. You can also link your Tinder account to your Instagram, and include info about your employer and/or school. Discovery settings allow other users to find you if desired and set a few preferences regarding who you see. Then the real fun begins.
If you want to join Raya, be prepared to do a little legwork. Once you download the app, you need to complete an application as well as have a referral from a current member. Your application is then assessed by certain algorithmic values before being evaluated by an anonymous committee. The entire process can take anywhere from several weeks from several months, and once you’re approved there is a monthly membership fee of $8 to use the service.
Numerous television reality and game shows, past and current, address dating. For example, the dating game shows The Dating Game first aired in 1965, while more modern shows in that genre include The Manhattan Dating Project (US Movie about Dating in New York City), Blind Date, The 5th Wheel, and The Bachelor and its spinoff series, in which a high degree of support and aids are provided to individuals seeking dates. These are described more fully here and in the related article on "reality game shows" that often include or motivate romantic episodes between players. Another category of dating-oriented reality TV shows involves matchmaking, such as Millionaire Matchmaker and Tough Love.

For over 10 years, AsianDating has connected thousands of Asian singles worldwide. As one of the first dating sites in the niche, AsianDating is one of the largest and most trusted sites around. Not many other sites can offer you a membership database of over 2.5 million members with the promise of introducing you to single men and women across the world.
Since divorce is increasing in many areas, sometimes celebrated with "divorce parties",[186] there is dating advice for the freshly divorced as well, which includes not talking about your ex or your divorce, but focusing on "activities that bring joy to your life."[33] Adviser Claire Rayner in The Guardian suggests calling people from your address book with whom you haven't been in touch for years and say "I'd love to get back in contact."[187] Do activities you like doing with like-minded people; if someone seems interesting to you, tell them.[187] It's more acceptable for this group for women to ask men out.[187]

I agree with you 90 percent - I have put a lot of effort into becoming a better man, and have found very few women who have put any effort into themselves. Most are flakey and self-centered, believing in a Disney dream that their prince will waltz into their lives. They play games, and invent drama to manipulate to get their way. And while they are as monkeys, who won't let go of one branch to grab on to another, they accuse men of doing the same.
If you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls. However, if you are a man (independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.
Good point. Some of what we are seeing with this dissatisfaction is "shopping" for the "perfect" mate. Consumer culture has conditioned us to shop for the better deal, never be satisfied, and be sure to "get everything we want". Unfortunately, that mind set is carried over into dating. So, many people spend their lives looking for "perfect", pass up a whole lot of "very good" in the process, and end up alone. All because we've been trained to buy the next "big thing" and not to be happy with "enough".
Coffee Meets Bagel does require logging in through your Facebook in order to create a profile. Once you’ve set up your profile and input your preferences, it will send you one “bagel” a day, which is essentially the profile of a potential match. You then have 24 hours to decide whether you want to “like” or “pass” on your bagel. If you like your bagel and they have also liked you, you’ll connect, meaning that you’ll be able to message one another in a private chat. That chat room expires after eight days, regardless of whether you’ve talked with your bagel or not. You can also earn “beans” that allow for extra app functions, either by purchasing them outright, recommending the app to your friends, or logging in on consecutive days.
“I’m trying to go to lunch, not on an Indiana Jones adventure to unlock the secrets of some tombstone,” Freeby jokes. But he strikes a chord for a lot of men: “We like a challenge, but if a woman plays hard to get, it’s a deal breaker.” The availability of other women via online dating websites and apps makes it even more crucial that a woman not appear to be closed off, points out dating coach Bennett. Here’s the dumbest dating advice we’ve ever heard.

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Don’t call him everyday – It may from time to time seem as though the male half of the population hasn’t fully grasped the concept of staying in touch but trust me we know how to call you when you haven’t called us. If you call constantly to “just check in” then the chances are he’ll feel smothered within a week and will lose interest or just assume you are a bit desperate. If you don’t call, he’ll start to panic and think that you have a life that doesn’t revolve around him. However, if he isn’t calling or answering at all, then you might need to consider it’s a sign he’s not into you.
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